Everyone I have ever known who has a sister told me all of the time, "You fight now, but when you're adults you'll be closer than ever." I never thought so and I would flippantly ask why. I got several replies to that from "The distance will bring you together" to "You'll be able to see all of the good things about your sister without having to live with all of the bad." Either way it boiled down to not living under the same roof for some unknown period of time.
I went to Chicago for a weekend in the sixth grade. That wasn't long enough. I went to Washington DC for a week in the eighth grade. That wasn't long enough either. I took a nine day excursion to Spain, which I thought would do the trick since I had an ocean separating us too. That kind of worked. I missed her, but I still didn't get what all of those people had told me. I put the idea of achieving a mutually voluntary friendship with my sister out of my mind for the next two years.
Today was an ordinary day. I got up, went to work, got off, took my sister to work, went home, did chores, picked my sister up from work, went home, had dinner, and my sister went out with friends. (Mind you, I will be nineteen next week and the sister in question, Mara, is sixteen.)
Today is not the first day I've complained that she's gone out several nights a week in the last month or so either. She asked why I care so much and my mom, jokingly, said, "Maybe she misses you." She didn't know that she wasn't so far off.
I'm preparing to go off to college and have all of these new adventures, but I haven't gone yet. I still live under the same roof as Mara, but I finally understand what all of those people had said over the years. My sister was my only playmate as a child. We would take over the entire house when Mom and Dad were at work and create whole towns out of the 7 or 8 rooms on the first floor. We would transform ourselves into businesswomen, lawyers, brides, police officers, doctors, housewives, high school students, and teachers. Together we never had to be afraid if someone was judging us for drinking hot chocolate out of Propel bottles or stuffing doll babies up our shirts. Mara would always have my back when I needed her and vice versa (although she usually ended up in the "protector" role). She never made fun of me because I loved homework back then and she let me read to her once because she knew how sad it made me when she could read on her own.
I'm preparing to go off to college and have all of these new adventures, but I haven't gone yet. I still live under the same roof as Mara, but I finally understand what all of those people had said over the years. My sister was my only playmate as a child. We would take over the entire house when Mom and Dad were at work and create whole towns out of the 7 or 8 rooms on the first floor. We would transform ourselves into businesswomen, lawyers, brides, police officers, doctors, housewives, high school students, and teachers. Together we never had to be afraid if someone was judging us for drinking hot chocolate out of Propel bottles or stuffing doll babies up our shirts. Mara would always have my back when I needed her and vice versa (although she usually ended up in the "protector" role). She never made fun of me because I loved homework back then and she let me read to her once because she knew how sad it made me when she could read on her own.
With my impending move and her being with friends all the time I have finally reached the point where, all irritations aside, I miss being my little sister's best friend and role model. I have discovered what those people meant when they said my sister and I would be closer than ever.
We aren't that close right now, but I can see the cross over on the horizon. I can't wait to have my playmate back. I know she won't judge me and she'll provide help when I ask for it. She will be my confidante and my protector. Instead of pretending to be police officers and lawyers, we'll actually be them. Replacing our hot chocolate-filled Propel bottles will be actual travelmugs of coffee or tea. Replacing conversations on which make believe game we should play will be conversations about which paths in our lives we should take. I'm excited for that relationship with my sister and I can see the flowers beginning to bloom.
We aren't that close right now, but I can see the cross over on the horizon. I can't wait to have my playmate back. I know she won't judge me and she'll provide help when I ask for it. She will be my confidante and my protector. Instead of pretending to be police officers and lawyers, we'll actually be them. Replacing our hot chocolate-filled Propel bottles will be actual travelmugs of coffee or tea. Replacing conversations on which make believe game we should play will be conversations about which paths in our lives we should take. I'm excited for that relationship with my sister and I can see the flowers beginning to bloom.
If you have a sister, I stand by what those people all told me so long ago. "When you're adults, you'll be closer than ever." And when it comes to sisters distance definitely "makes the heart grow fonder."